Like a constellation of praise, the little stars that represent restaurant and hotel ratings tell us we’re looking at something special. We do the same in business, from dry cleaners to daycare, choosing companies because their reputation for value spells excellent service.

But in these super-charged, 24/7 information-overload times, more often it’s the personal experience rather than the professional review that tells us what’s worth our money. I was recently planning a birthday dinner for a friend, talking to a colleague over coffee about her new restaurant, when a young man at the next table leaned over and said, “Don’t go there! The food is overcooked or too cold. The staff ignores you and it’s way overpriced.”

Amused, I thanked him and figured he’d had a bad experience, as a high-end restaurant couldn’t be that bad. But it was. Even worse, the manager was unsympathetic when I mentioned the problems. Multiply my experience, and the young man’s, by dozens of others, all with Twitter and Facebook friends, and you know how far our no-star ratings could spread. Kudos from your professional colleagues are great, but have you checked with your customers to see if they rate your service as five-star value?

How do you ensure that your customers think your product or service is top-notch?

Ever see a receipt bearing the words “thanks to you, our valued customer” – and how often do you scoff? Especially when the receipt comes after you’ve scanned and bagged your own groceries, punched in your own loyalty code and made your own change. Oh yes, you feel valued: you’re doing the work of an employee and paying for the privilege.

This self-service practice, seemingly everywhere, saves money for the companies who pay fewer employees to deal with customer concerns, but what does it do for customers? “I went into a store where I’ve shopped for years and found new management,” a busy woman said. She’d stopped in, planning to buy a baby gift for a friend having twins, but she couldn’t find what she wanted and none of the employees offered to help. “I finally left because the manager was too busy talking on her cell phone to answer my questions,” she said.

This scenario could be repeated in any chain store coast-to-coast, with profits up and customer service scarce. “But we take care of the customers in my business,” you say. Can you anticipate what a customer may want or recall a service you provided a year ago? The gap between saying you value your customers and demonstrating how you value them is the difference between the customer who migrates elsewhere and the one who takes to heart the notation “we heart our customers.”

What new ways can you show your customers their value?

In these tense economic times, job seekers are constantly told by experts to bring something extra, stand out from the crowd. “It’s the added value that’s the difference,” they’re reminded, between being hired and being forgotten.

Of course the experts who haven’t been “out there” have wacky ideas on standing out. One newscaster reminded job hunters to “wear a clean shirt” and “share your experiences about backpacking in the Amazon.” Wait, let’s write that down!

An enterprising job seeker had a better method. The company he’d targeted needed to launch a quarterly newsletter, but they’d left the post open for a year. “I’ll show you how I’d do it if you’ll give me a tryout,” he said. Dubious, the hiring manager agreed to the audition and was instantly impressed. The job seeker showed his immediate worth, drafting a newsletter format and suggesting ways to promote it. His bold move showed the company the value of its newsletter idea – which was upgraded to a weekly edition – and the value of having someone experienced to handle it.

“Show me the money,” Jerry Maguire yelled. More likely, show me the value…of a product, a service, or a better way to go. Your employees illustrate that every day.

Have you paused lately to consider and comment on their value, for the moment and for the future?

The credit card commercial’s catchphrase tells us to blithely charge all those pesky expenses like clothing, computer accessories, or even hot dogs at the big game – just pay right there with a swipe of this card. But it also reminds us that some things can’t be paid for with plastic, the “priceless” experiences like sharing the fun of that game with a favorite friend or beloved child.

“Priceless” – meaning you can’t put a dollar value on it – can apply to everyday experiences, too, from a double rainbow in the summer sky to a brilliant idea for making your business more efficient. Not every idea qualifies as priceless, but the flow of ideas and opinions is an asset no credit card can pay for. When a customer seeks you out with an idea for something he’s thought about, it demonstrates how much he not only values your service but wants to see you do better. An employee’s suggestion tells you she’s thinking on, and off, the job.

You may need to streamline and tweak the ideas you’re offered before putting them into practice, or you may find them naive or impractical for your business. No matter. The value of input by those paying attention to what you do is indeed “priceless.”

What ideas are you hearing that will keep customers, employees, and you smiling?

A small business owner who’d had success selling online decided to expand, opening a real bricks-and-mortar shop. Yes, it’s the reverse of so many companies, but she missed the in-person connection of retail. Friends, colleagues and family all advised against it. “Your customers are all over the place, yet this would be a local store!” “Your online business will suffer if you’re busy doing sales in person.”

She plunged ahead with a small but bright storefront sandwiched between two offices. Her grand opening brought a huge crowd, virtually all out-of-towners. She’d invited her online customers for a special weekend of shopping and fun, and had issued invitations months earlier, even arranging for hotel and restaurant discounts, offering those merchants discount vouchers for her business in return.

The bustling crowd created a buzz and curious local shoppers stopped in, too. The shop was a go, a companion to her virtual store. Even when faced with predictions of negativity, she’d stayed true to her vision. With long-term prep and a touch of imagination, her perseverance paid off.

When a new idea for improving customer service draws thumbs down from those around you, can you try another angle? Then go for it! Your own instincts are the best map for staying the course.